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  Chapter 16 - REFRAMING: The Power Of Perspective   If I asked you, "What does a footstep mean?" you would probably answer, "It doesn't mean anything to me." But what if you're sitting home alone late at night, and you hear footsteps downstairs? A moment later, you hear the steps moving toward you. Do the footsteps have meaning then? They sure do. The same signal (the sound of footsteps) will have many different meanings depending upon what it has meant to you in similar situations in the past. Thus the meaning of any experience in life depends upon the frame we put around it. If you change the frame we put around it the context, the meaning changes instantly. One of the most effective tools for personal change is learning how to put the best frames on any experiences. This process is called reframing. Reframing in its simplest form is changing a negative statement into a positive one by changing the frame of reference used to perceive the experience. There...

  Chapter 13 - The Magic Of Rapport   Think of a time when you and another person were completely in sync. Whatever you come up with will be a reflection of the same basic element-rapport. RAPPORT IS THE ABILITY TO ENTER SOMEONE ELSE'S WORLD, to make that person feel that you understand him/her, and that you have a common bond. It's the ability to go fully from your map of the world to his/her map of the world. Rapport is the ultimate tool for producing results with other people. No matter what you want in your life, if you can develop rapport with people, you'll be able to fill their needs, and they will be able to fill yours. All the skills you learn in this book are really ways to achieve greater rapport with people. When people are like each other, they tend to like each other. Whom do most Americans tend to feel better about, the English or the Iranians? In fact, when we say that people are "having differences," we mean that the ways in which ...

  Wouldn't you like to join us in the JTF BOOK CLUB and take advantage of the books we give out for free to grow yourself  and your family? Click on this  LINK  to join As A Man Thinketh - Chapter 7 Serenity   Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. It is the result of long and patient effort in self-control. Its presence is an indication of ripened experience, and of a more than ordinary knowledge of the laws and operations of thought. A man becomes calm in the measure that he understands himself as a thought-evolved being. For such knowledge necessitates the understanding of others as the result of thought, and as he develops a right understanding, and sees ever more clearly the internal relations of things by the action of cause and effect, he ceases to fuss, fume, worry, and grieve. He remains poised, steadfast, serene. The calm man, having learned how to govern himself, knows how to adapt himself to others. And they, in turn reverence h...

  Wouldn't you like to join us in the JTF BOOK CLUB and take advantage of the books we give out for free to grow yourself  and your family? Click on this  LINK  to join As A Man Thinketh - Chapter 6 Visions And Ideals The dreamers are the saviors of the world. As the visible world is sustained by the invisible, so men, through all their trials and sins and sordid vocations, are nourished by the beautiful visions of their solitary dreamers. Humanity cannot forget its dreamers; it cannot let their ideals fade and die; it lives in them; it knows them as the realities which it shall one day see and know. Composer, sculptor, painter, poet, prophet, sage--these are the makers of the after-world, the architects of heaven. The world is beautiful because they have lived. Without them, laboring humanity would perish. He who cherishes a beautiful vision, a lofty ideal in his heart, will one day realize it. Columbus cherished a vision of another world and he discovered it. Cop...

  Wouldn't you like to join us in the JTF BOOK CLUB and take advantage of the books we give out for free to grow yourself and your family? Click on this  LINK  to join Who Was James Allen? James Allen (28 November 1864 – 24 January 1912) was a British philosophical writer known for his inspirational books and poetry and as a pioneer of the self-help movement. His best-known work,  As a Man Thinketh , has been mass-produced since its publication in 1903. It has been a source of inspiration to motivational and self-help authors. Born in Leicester, England, into a working-class family, Allen was the elder of two brothers. His mother could neither read nor write. His father, William, was a factory knitter. In 1879, following a downturn in the textile trade of central England, Allen's father traveled alone to America to find work and establish a new home for the family. Within two days of arriving his father was pronounced dead at New York City Hospital, be...