Challenge With Dr. Jerry - the First

  Chapter 15 - Host To Handle Resistance And Solve Problems   This chapter is about handling resistance and solving problems. If there was a keyword in the first half of the book, it was "modeling." If there's a keyword for the second half of this book, it's "flexibility"-the one thing effective communicators have in common. Flexibility doesn't necessarily come naturally. Most of us think of settling a dispute as something akin to verbal boxing. Much more elegant is not to overcome force, but to align yourself with the force directed at you and guide it in a new direction-the metaphor of the Oriental martial arts like aikido and t'ai chi. Remember that there is no such thing as resistance, there are once inflexible communicators . It's important for us to remember that certain words and phrases create resistance and problems. Let me give you the example of one ever-present, three-letter word- "but." If someone says, ...

  Chapter 14 - Distinctions Of Excellence: METAPROGRAMS   "In the right key one can say anything. In the wrong key, nothing: the only delicate part is the establishment of the key." -George Bernard Shaw   Why do people react so differently to identical messages? Why does one person see the glass as half-empty and another sees it as half-full? Shaw's quote is precisely right. If you address someone in the right key, you can do anything. If you address someone in the wrong key, you can do nothing. If you want to be a master communicator or a master persuader, you have to know how to find the right key. The path is through metaprograms. Metaprograms are powerful internal patterns that help determine how people form internal representations and direct their behavior. Metaprograms are the internal programs (or sorts) we use in deciding what to pay attention to. We distort, delete, and generalize information because the conscious mind can only pay attention to so many pieces of...

  CHAPTER 11:  Limitation Disengage: What Do You Want?   You now know how to direct your mind and support y our body. You now know how to achieve whatever you want and how to help others achieve what they want. That leaves a major question. What do you want? What do the people you love and care about want? The second part of this book asks these questions, makes these distinctions, and finds these paths so you can use your abilities in the most elegant, effective, directed ways. Continue Reading on YOUTUBE  Also, drop your summaries on YOUTUBE

  Chapter 4: The Birth Of Excellence -  BELIEF   "Man is what he believes." - Anton Chekhov Think of the story of Pablo Casals at 90-frail and arthritic, the very thought of playing the piano totally changed his state and thus the effectiveness of his body he believed in the transcendent power of his art, his music. Beliefs deliver direct commands to your nervous system. Handled effectively, they can be the most powerful forces for creating good in your life. On the other hand, beliefs that limit your actions and thoughts can be as devastating as resourceful beliefs can be empowering. Beliefs are the compass and maps that guide us toward our goals and give us the certainty to know we'll get there. Without beliefs or the ability to tap into them, people can be totally dis-empowered; with powerful guiding beliefs, you can see what you want and be energized to get it. The more we learn about human behavior, the more we learn about the extraordinary power ...

  Chapter 3: The Power Of State   The experience of being on a roll, when you could do no wrong-or the opposite-is a result of the neurophysiological state you are in. Understanding state is the key to understanding change and achieving excellence. Our behavior is the result of the state we're in. We always do the best we can with the resources available to us, but sometimes we find ourselves in unresourceful states. A state can be defined as the sum of the millions of neurological processes happening within us, in other words, the sum total of our experience at any moment in time. The problem is, most of our states happen without any conscious direction on our part. People succeed or fail in life in direct relationship to their ability to consistently put themselves in states that support them in their achievements. Almost everything people want is some possible state-love, confidence, respect-even money, which you want in order to give you states like freedom, ...

  Chapter 2 - The Difference That Makes A Difference   What is the difference that makes a difference? I've been obsessed with that question for my entire life. People who succeed do not have fewer problems than people who fail. It is not what happens to us that separates failures from successes. It is how we perceive what happens and what we do about what "happens" that makes the difference. Think of W. Mitchell's two terrible accidents, and contrast it with John Belushi's external success. W. Mitchell chose to consistently communicate to himself that his experience had occurred for a purpose. His internal communication formed sets of beliefs and values that continued to direct his life from a sense of advantage rather than tragedy-even after he was burned and paralyzed. John Belushi had everything externally, but internally, he'd been running on empty for years before he died of drug abuse. Long ago, I realized that success leaves clues, an...

  ANNOUNCEMENT   #21DaysBookReadingChallengeWithDrJerryTheFirst6thEdition   Listen to this on Youtube Hello Friends On behalf of Topitup Media and Communications Nigeria, -   owners of the Top Iconic Challenge Platform, I wish to invite you to participate in the 6th Edition of our Monthly Book Reading Challenge for the month of October 2020 and tagged - 21DaysBookReadingChallengeWihtDrJerryTheFirst The program has become one we have factored into our Schedule of Programs from the stable of Topitup Media and Communication We have used these book reading challenges to activate the mindset of the participants in the direction of acquisition of whatever they want in life and you too can benefit   from the participation In the month of May 2020 we read - Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill In the month of June 2020 we read - Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki In the month of July 2020 we read not one, but two   exotic and iconic books that hav...